Online dating what to say if not interested
Make every effort to handle the situation with an appropriate level of consideration and maturity. I like to say that there is seldom a better time than now to tell someone what is true for you, especially if that truth has consequences for the other person.
By Judith Silverstein, Michael Lasky The Internet is a strange place, and what seems abnormal for in-person experiences is completely common on the Internet.
I wish you all the best and appreciate the time we spent getting to know one another.'” — April Beyer, Matchmaker and Dating & Relationship Coach for Women.
“You should always treat others, as you would like to be treated yourself.
If you get approached by someone you don’t find attractive, for whatever reason, you simply hit delete and move on. I began adapting to these odd new cultural mores, for a couple of reasons.
Busy week, other things to focus on – sometimes I forget I sent a note at all.
But when she writes back, when she makes eye contact, then the rejection becomes personal and I have to think about it.
I applaud you for writing in about a dating scenario that is all too often mishandled.
Normally considerate people will justify completely disappearing by saying they don’t want to hurt the other person.
They convince themselves it is better to just fade away.
You may not be interested, but you can’t just pretend that the person isn’t standing there talking to you. So we have developed all manner of ways of saying no thanks, in what is hopefully the kindest way possible. And a couple times, women I have written to actually have replied with nice no thank you messages. And – here’s the odd part – a little uncomfortable.
None of us likes to be rejected, and if we have any empathy about us at all we’re uncomfortable inflicting pain and/or embarrassment on someone – especially since that person’s only crime is thinking we’re kinda neat. When I first signed up for back in 2010 I didn’t know the rules. It turns out that I much prefer being ignored to being acknowledged in cases of rejection.
While this sounds so cliché, it definitely applies in this situation. It’s always best to just be up front and honest with them in a nice way. s/he is really a great person, has a lot going for him/her, etc.), and then just say that you don’t feel there was a connection or chemistry.